May 2, 2012

IWSG: Change Your Story

It's the first Wednesday of the month and time for another round of posts from the Insecure Writer's Support Group. Many thanks go to Alex J. Cavanaugh, for hosting!

I was watching Oprah's Life Class and Super Soul Sunday this weekend and I am so glad I tuned in. It was completely inspirational, as were her guests: Tony Robbins, Deepak Chopra, Maya Angelou, Iyanla Vanzant and Bishop T.D. Jakes. It was a day of self-empowerment.

Tony Robbins spoke about fear and how we're all born with it. It's a protection mechanism from the earliest cave man days and the fight or flight instinct. Obviously in a real emergency situation it can save our lives. But it can also hold us back from what we're trying to accomplish.

We have all sorts of reasons for being held back or why we're not successful. It's the "story" we tell ourselves for why we don't succeed. Maybe your business failed because your competitor slashed prices. Maybe you didn't get the promotion because you wouldn't sleep your way to the top. Or maybe you couldn't compete because you weren't bloodthirsty enough, or greedy enough, or unwilling to step on people on your upward climb. Or maybe on a personal level your parents were abusive alcoholics and drug users and you didn't stand a chance.

You get the picture. We all have our story and we hang on to it like a life line. We can analyze it till we're blue in the face, which just gives the story more power. This is the enemy! The story that disempowers you, destroys you.

Tony Robbins says we need to divorce our story, just like a relationship or marriage that isn't working. Invent a new story, one where you're successful. Just like the old story, if we tell ourselves the new story enough times, we become conditioned to believe  it. It's like a self fulfilling prophecy.

Here are his three "musts" for success:

  1. Strategy (come up with a strategy for success - have a plan)
  2. The Right Story (change your story - come up with a story for success)
  3. State of Mind (change your state of mind - act like a success, stand tall)

Do you see how we can use this to become successful?

Everything we need is inside us. We have all the tools. I'm not getting religious here, but according to Joel Osteen, we are children of God. We have God's DNA, so we are totally made of awesomeness!

Whatever you're trying to do, whether it's writing, losing weight or becoming healthy, we have the power through our mindsets to achieve our goals.  

Need some inspiration? Check out these websites and the video below:

Thought For The Day

Inspirational Quotes

Tony Robbins

Deepak Chopra

Joel Osteen

Normal Vincent Peale


Iyanla Vanzant

Maya Angelou

Bishop T.D. Jakes

Oprah Winfrey

Leo Buscaglia

Squire Rushnell

Eckhart Tolle

The Secret

The Biggest Loser

The Mayo Clinic


Daily Mile

If you haven't seen Elizabeth Gilbert on TED, you should check it out. It's nearly twenty minutes long, but completely inspirational:

So what are you doing for inspiration and motivation?


Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

You're right! We are made in God's image, which makes us really damn awesome.
Write yourself a new story. I like that idea.

Michelle Pickett said...

Excellent post!! Very encouraging and inspirational. We do all have a story that we need to divorce. Even now I can sit here and think of one that I need to work on.

Great post!
Michelle :)

Lady Gwen said...

Alex, amen brother!

Michelle, divorce that story and think of a new one!

Tonja said...

Great post! I feel inspired without going to the other posts. :)

Elise Fallson said...

I've got some stories I'd like to divorce! lol! This was a great post. Change our story, change our reality. I like it.

Claire Hennessy said...

Great post and I so agree. I tell myself a new story everyday and it's bloody well working! You should see the miracles I am creating for myself. I love all those peopele, plus check out Jo Dunning. I will listen to EG video while I am doing boring work today. Really pleased you are on my meditation journey with me.

Lady Gwen said...

Tonja, I am so pleased. I'm glad I made you feel better.

Elise, I'm working hard at changing my story!

Claire, I agree. I'm telling myself all sorts of positive things and I believe it, too! I'm making things happen. I'm so happy that I found the month of meditation on your site, too. Who knows what will happen by the end of the month!